Values

Forced choice

One of the seventh graders’ favorite activities is forced choice. Each side of the classroom is designated as “agree side” or “disagree side.” The peer helpers read a controversial statement to the class. After thinking about the statement, students who agree must walk to the “agree side” of the room and students who disagree must walk to the “disagree side.” Then everyone is given a chance to tell why they agree or disagree. It’s a great way to get teens to think about their own values!

Do YOU agree or disagree?

  • It is okay not to use condoms if you’re having sex for the first time.
  • 12 years of age is old enough to make your own decisions about sex.
  • Condoms should be available at school.
  • If a person has AIDS it’s his or her own fault.
  • You should use condoms even if you only have sex with a steady partner.
  • It’s okay to try drugs as long as you don’t get addicted.
  • Teachers who are HIV+ should be allowed to work in schools.
  • It is the boy’s responsibility to get a condom.
  • I would date someone my parents don’t like.
  • Anyone who has ever had unsafe sex should be tested for HIV and STD’s.
  • Boys are more sexually active than girls.
  • HIV+ people from other countries should not be allowed to move to the United States.


Decision-making model

Below is an sample activity from the Peer Helping session with the seventh grade students. The peer helpers read a “sticky situation” to the class. The seventh graders then use the STAR model to help them make a decision about what they would do if they were in that situation.

Example of “Sticky Situations:”

Naomi Ling, Natasha Ghebetense and Brenda Kong act out one of the following sticky situations.

Situation A: You go over to a friend’s house for dinner. His/her parents leave, and before you know it your friend’s older brother has brought out a bottle of Vodka. You have never gotten drunk before and you are not really sure you want to. Your friend is encouraging you to have some. What do you do?

Situation B: You have been going out with someone for two weeks, but you never talk when you are together. It seems as though you only make out, and each time it gets more and more serious. You do not even know the person very well, and everything is moving very quickly. You are thinking that you want to stop seeing him/her. What do you do?


STAR Guide to Decisions

Stop: Step back from the situation. Give yourself some time to think.

Think: What are my options? What are the consequences? What’s my decision?

Act: Do what you decided to do. And tell the other person about it.

Review: What happened? How else could I have handled it? Can I live with the consequences?

Assignment

Write a few words describing the situation read by the peer helpers. Write down what YOU would do for each STAR step in that situation:

STOP:
THINK:
ACT:
REVIEW:

In the center of the STAR above, draw or write something that is important to you from your personal values.

Last modified: February 7, 2011